The Real Mrs. Sloh Speaks

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Mrs. Ruth Doe-Sloh (left) posted this among several other photographs of her and Mr. J. Nagbe Sloh, as evidence that she is really his widow.

Wins House support, with compelling evidence of marriage to fallen Sinoe County District #2 lawmaker

The House’s Judiciary Committee has ruled in favor or awarded decision to Mrs. Ruth Doe-Sloh as the legal wife to the late Rep. Jay Nagbe Sloh of Sinoe County District #2.

The burial of the fallen Sinoe County lawmaker should have been done today (Friday), but the dispute over the lawful right between Mrs. Ruth Doe-Sloh and Kou Sloh has stalled the funeral rites.

Cllr. J. Fonati Koffa, the chairman on Judiciary, said after “thorough” investigation and deliberation, only Mrs. Doe-Sloh presented ‘evidence’ of their marriage, even though it was their first time meeting her, unlike Kou, whom they have known over the years.

The House’s decision has thwarted rumors that Kou would have been favored following her having been introduced and interactions she may have had with most of the lawmakers in the House and Senate.

The Judiciary Committee’s recommendation of support of Ruth over Kou has been ‘noted.’

Cllr. Koffa made the assertions when he spoke with Mr. Ashford ‘the Giant’ Garley live on Bridge Radio Africa on Wednesday night.

House Judiciary Chairman Cllr. J. Fonati Koffa, the late Rep. J. Nagbe Sloh and Rep. Bryan Howard, member of the Judiciary Committee

The late Rep. Sloh was the House’s Chairman on Information, Broadcasting, Culture and Tourism. He died at the John F. Kennedy Hospital on Tuesday, June 30, 2020, reportedly from a protracted illness. He was 55.

The death of Rep. Sloh marks the second passing of “radical” lawmaker of the House of Representatives who was subjected to investigation either to the Committee of Rules, Order and Administration or to an Ad Hoc Special Committee for questioning the leadership of Speaker Bhofal Chambers.

The late Sloh tendered his resignation as chairman of the Committee but was rejected after the death of his closet friend, Rep. Adolph Lawrence of Montserrado County District #15, who met his untimely demise on March 24, 2019. Rep. Lawrence was 53 years old.

The Sinoe County lawmaker was member of the Independent Legislative Caucus of the House of Representatives and the Secretary General of the Sinoe County Legislative Caucus.

It may be recalled, last week, Mrs. Ruth Doe-Sloh filed an application before the Civil Law Court to prevent the burial of her husband, and against the authority of Mrs. Kou Sloh.

“I made several sacrifices for him to become the man that he has become over the years,” Mrs. Doe-Sloh narrated in a letter to the House of Representative requesting that the mortal remains of her late husband be handed over to her brother-in-law, Mr. Nyensuah Sloh, who is her Power-of-Attorney in Liberia.

In her letter, dated July 16, 2020, Mrs. Doe-Sloh said she and J. Nagbe Sloh got married on May 8, 1993 in Monrovia and both have remained husband and wife, never divorced during the 27 years up to the time of his death.

“We met when we were teenagers, and I never said anything over the years because I did not want to hurt my husband’s political career. We have four children and our oldest is 35 years and my youngest is 20,” Mrs. Doe-Sloh explained in her letter to the House days after she posted a tribute to her husband on Facebook.

The post was accompanied by several photographs of her and Mr. Sloh, along with their children back in the days before migrating to the United States.

“My husband stayed in touch over the years and even wrote telling me thanks for taking good care of the children.” She continued. “I am writing this letter as a widow because while my husband was away, he entered into an extra-marital affair and it is the woman that is masquerading as the wife of my late husband.

“Assuming that my husband was married to this woman, said marriage is illegal and unlawful under the laws of Liberia, since we were never divorced,” she added.

“The purpose of this letter is to ask the House to grant me rightful permission to my husband’s body and ensure that the law is upheld under this matter. Please see attached Power of Attorney letter granting Mr. Nyensuah Sloh, brother of my late husband, full rights to act on my behalf since I cannot travel out of the United States due to COVID-19.”

Mrs. Doe-Sloh added: “I have stayed quiet enough but my civil rights as Mrs. Sloh are being violated by a marriage of a lie that has gone too far. These are not the best circumstances but I am requesting this body of the Government to acknowledge and immediately implement my rights as the rightful Mrs. Sloh, who stood with my husband as he developed his career as a journalist.”

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  • I am a Liberian journalist, born November 7 and hailed from the Southeast and of the kru tribe. I began contributing to the Daily Observer 2008 and was fully employed in 2012. I am the 3rd of eight children and named after my great grandfather. Am happily married with three children (girls). I am a full member of the Press Union of Liberia (PUL) and also the Sports Writers Association of Liberia (SWAL) and the Legislative Press Pool (LEGISPOL). I can be contacted through email: [email protected] or cell number/WhatsApp: (+231) 0886585875 or Facebook.

33 COMMENTS

  1. I am so glad to see that the legislators stood for the right thing, even though they have never met their real Mrs. Sloh. They knew the mistress (woman who is in a real with a married man) for all of these years, but yet, they got it right this time. For that, I applaud you all, and can say that this was truly an honorable act. Decisions like this are what makes us call you all Honorable! I pray that these correct decisions can be a hallmark of your leadership skills, and I thank the House’s Judiciary Committee and it’s chairman, Cllr. J. Fonati Koffa, for their wise decision. Keep it up!

    • You’re a big fool, Mistress? Clearly this country allowed this man to get married through customary laws and statutory because of him being in leadership, Every Picture I have seen of this so called “real Mrs. is that from the 90s nothing current.She invested in who he was? What has she done. It’s clearly that the House only knew Kau and not the real Mrs. that changed Facebook last name after Hon. Sloh passed. For what I was found, Kau has been there and even from Hon. Sloh numerous Facebook accounts post only acknowledging Kau as his wife and publicizing her care and nurture and him being on her health insurance, being there when he’s sick. Hon. Sloh is not alive to speak on this issue and Ruth only grew voice after his death, is it only the body or does she now want to claim any property that she had no involvement in. She’s an opportunist and this should be called The “Real” Opportunist”, your please review this man’s life and see who was invested in him and who acknowledged, if he was alive the paper Ruth Doe holds would have no value. I agree with the commenter below names Aaron. RIP Hon.

  2. This kind of story is way too familiar among Liberian men in authority and with / have power, Cheating, Bigamy, Lies, Lies and Lies to women in particular.

    I don’t know Ms.Ruth-Doe Sloh or Ms. Kou Sloh but my heart goes out to both of them. This might be an emotional event for both women involved.

    The fact according to the story that Rep. Sloh’s friends and colleagues in the Liberian House of Representatives and Senate knew, recognized and interacted with Ms. Kou Sloh speaks volume or a lot as to her contributions to his well being. Rep Sloh is not here or around anymore to clarify, unfortunately his alleged act of Bigamy.

    My Liberians Sisters, please don’t sell yourself cheap, or be played by these good for nothing big shots in Monrovia, Let your relationships be documented legally on Paper. Educate yourself and don’t allow your emotions to render you as an educated fool either.

    • Updates information;

      Sources from within:
      Ruth Doe Sloh And Hon. Sloh were both on separation after Ruth refused a divorce proposal. That’s when he married Mano woman Kau Sloh traditionally , the American woman he’s referring to is Kau not Ruth who doesn’t even have papers to travel to Liberia.

  3. One Day, One Day; when Oppong kicks the bucket

    (I am NOT praying for this, in fact, I am praying for him to live long to see and cherish his great, great, great grands)

    — we are all destined to kick the darn bucket.

    So, when he kicks The Bucket; then the real Mrs. Oppong will come out too.

    Maybe she will come from Miami
    Maybe she will come from West Point, in Monrovia
    Maybe she will come from Mecca
    Maybe she will come from France
    Maybe she will come from Monaco
    Maybe she will come from Nigeria

    Dang… the list is too long.

    It will Waste!

  4. Mr. Aaron Nelson

    I so agree with you. this is an all too familiar but sad story that happens all the time. Unfortunately for Sister Kou, nothing was documented between she and the Late Sloh and now she is left holding the empty sack and we all know that “what is not done legally is not done at all”

    Despite what may have occurred between Sister Ruth and Late Sloh, she is the one that law recognized and the law is the law.

    Mr. warning Shot,

    We only know one legal wife of President weah and she is Mother Clar, so that your other talk, dont bring it around here with your “xactly point mouth” Lol.

    Our President still has many years to live and we know that he will make it.

    Thank you.

  5. Bro. Kimba and. Swan L. Thanks for reading my post and concurring with me.

    This is just an unfortunate situation for both women involved especially when children are involved.

    Our men and fathers need to think a lot before putting other people daughters in situation like this, I’m sure many won’t like it if the situation was reversed and happened to their daughter.

    Leaving others traumatize and your estate in chaos is not a good way to exit.

  6. This decission should be revisited and Hon Kofa should look at J Nagbe Sloh’s recent facebook post in whch he said his wife Kou works at a prestegious Hospital and teaches nursing also at a prestegious institution. Hon. Sloh made clear how his wife Kou was providing insurance for him. Ruth Sloh refused to grant divorce to Nagbe Sloh and only came out to claim his body and trying to get benefits. All of the pictures she posted with Hon. Sloh are all old and out dated. Mrs. Kou Sloh, Nagbe and myself live in the same city and not far from each another. I strongly believe that if there is any benefit, it should be shared equally among the Ruth and Kou’s children for peace sake.

    • I Totally agree with you brother Wonokay.

      I’m a son of Sinoe County of which the late Rep Sloh represented district #2 and I’m adding my voice for the Sinoe County legislative caucus to take charge and revisit this matter.
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      We will be watching for fair play and leadership.

  7. Please see attached Power of Attorney letter granting Mr. Nyensuah Sloh, brother of my late husband, full rights to act on my behalf since I cannot travel out of the United States due to COVID-19.”

    This an excerpt from Ruth Doe Sloh’s letter,

    She claims that she cannot travel due to COVID-19, how did Kau and her children make it to Liberia, Ruth is in a relationship for paper, she does not have papers Out of the United States, it is not because of COVID-19. Ruth and Nyensuah and saw opportunity for benefits. Ruth wants property for her kids. She parading with old pictures, When Hon. Sloh was at the point of death, where was she, please read Joe Toe post, Hon. Suah continuous refer to Kau As his wife, Ruth refused to give him divorce so they left it alone. How come all
    This whole while before Hon. Sloh took office she didn’t dispute his statements, publication about Kau being his wife. She claims she didn’t want to hurt his political career. It’s for whatever the government with give and property he has. As Hon. Sloh said his wife works at a prestigious hospital in Trenton and is a professor, she doesn’t need these things, Ruth what do you have to show for yourself? It’s said that it has come to this. Let the dead rest. Hon. Sloh is turning in his grave with this nonsense. The man passed June 30, more than 1 month later because of Ruth Doe is this man has not been buried. Is it only dead body she wants to marry to. He’s dead you can marry and get your papers now.

    I pray that this is revisited. There are also people in office making decisions that did not see eye to eye with Hon. Sloh

  8. No matter how y’all twist it, Husband and Wife separation is not equal to divorce.

    If Mr. Sloh really wanted a divorce, he could have also filed for ANNULMENT of the marriage; if his wife refused to sign the divorce documents.

    The man was a lawmaker. Do Not Tell Me That He Did Not Know About Marriage Annulment..!

  9. WARNINSHOT,

    This matter is not about twisting the narrative. Both parties are hurting, children are involved. For the sake of peace, some reconciliation needs to take place outside of Koffa and the House judiciary committee findings.

    To be fair here, Ms.Kou Sloh didn’t marry herself. Rep. Sloh married her and to answer your question, I’m sure The late Rep. Sloh knew about ANNULMENT but chose to do otherwise, So who broke the law by committing Bigamy and who is at fault here ? is my question to you.

    I am adding my voice as a son of Sinoe to call on Sen. Dr. Peter Coleman, Sen. Milton Teahjay, The sinoe County Legislative Caucus to take charge and revisit this matter. Let’s carry our dirty clothes back in house and resolve this matter for all involved as compare to the public display by Koffa.

    We will be watching for Fair play and Leadership.

  10. Liberia is under-developed because Liberians do not follow the Liberian Constitution and the laws of Liberia.

    Everything that is wrong with Liberia is wrapped inside the fact that I just laid out above.

    Liberians know the law, but they deliberately break the law and then the people who supposed to prosecute them for breaking the law, look the other way or use their political power to set them free without accountability — simply because they are family or friends.

    So long as we continue to put Family and Friends above Patriotism, Liberia will continue to go backward.

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    Fairness. You want fairness? Then Fairness is what the law says.

    If you want cronyism ( “croocrogy” ), then y’all take the matter “behind the house” — to the Palava Hut — where y’all always put the law aside and let things continue to go backward.

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    Compromise..!!!!

    Instead of attempting to twist the law, settle the case legally and then ask Ruth to compromise based on the fact that the other children (by Kou) are also Mr. Sloh’s children too.

    If Ruth truly loved her husband, as she has claimed openly, then it is expected that she would also show them love.

    Disclaimer:
    I do not know either of these women.

    • Warningshot, why are you saying “Liberians do not follow the Liberian Constitution and the laws of Liberia”, even after THE LIBERIAN PEOPLEŚ BRANCH OF GOVERNMENT has upheld the sacred fidelity of the Liberian Constitution by adjudicating in favor of Ruth Doe-Sloh?

  11. Updates: The Hon. “Real” and Hon. Brother are now begging Kau to take the body. They don’t have financial means to burry this man. The property they were fighting for where is it oooh. Ruth is married in America since her wedding with Hon. was in Liberia, she failed to mentioned that in her letter. From the beginning she should have reached out to Kau to work together to bury this man not to try to shame her. God does not sleep. Now Nyenswah is going to beg Kau. Ruth husband told her not to travel in addition to the paper not being there.

    • SWAN, STOP LYING? YOUR SO CALLED UPDATES ARE PILE OF LIES. The Sloh family has more than enough to even support the lawmakerś girlfriend Kau if she behaves. Kau thought she would have been a beneficiary of someoneś husband´s insurance benefits. But the reality has set in that she was a mere mistress or girl-friend. So she is not entitled to a dime. This is the reality. Stop lying and deceiving yourself.

      • Freedom to be Blunt, Have you heard reports of Kau fighting for property, this real foolishness Mrs. Doe did, they should have worked together to buried this man, she has made a complete fool of herself, people are even mistaken her for Kau stating she’s a professional nurse. If Ruth is not married for papers or has documents, why did she not travel to Liberia? Why did her husband or lover in the US stop her? Please research into the honorable life and even social media it’s Kau he references, more than 20 years Mrs. Doe has been separated and married in the US because her marriage with Hon. was in Liberia. I’m sorry if this is your family member.

        • Swan L, I have no relations with any of those women nor even the lawmaker. You are simply making utterances based on sentiments. And this matter is about THE LAW AND NOT ABOUT SENTIMENTS!

          THE LAW DOES NOT KNOW KAU AS THE WIFE OF THE LATE J.NAGBE SLOH; EVEN IF THEY WERE LIVING UNDER THE SAME ROOF AND SLEEPING ON THE SAME BED FOR 100 YEARS!

          THE LAW KNOWS RUTH DOE SLOH AS THE WIFE OF J.NAGBE SLOH EVEN IF THEY HAVE BEEN SEPARATED FOR 100 YEARS!

          ANYONE WHO TOLD YOU THAT US LAWS ALLOW ONE TO MARRY IN HIS OR HER HOME COUNTRY AND DURING SUCH DURATION OF MARRIAGE IN HIS OR HER OWN COUNTRY, CAN CONCURRENTLY BE MARRIED TO ANOTHER SPOUSE WITHIN THE US, IS LYING TO YOU! BE NOT DECEIVED.

          I am aware you are only making such groundless utterances to support your sentimental position and wishful thinking on this matter. But my friend, sentiments may seem great, but law prevails!!!

  12. What does our Liberian Law or Constitution say about Traditional Wedding, and how does it work in our society? Is it in par with the civilized marriage in the Churches with Certificates? Is it really considered and honored under our Laws? If the answers to these questions about Traditional Wedding in Liberia are positive yes, then in my view, both madam Ruth and Kou are widows to the late Hon. Sloh and should be treated as such. It is my candid appeal that both women work together to make the burial of their late husband successful; that those in charge mainly at the level of the Legislature honestly, and sincerely compromise between the two widows so as to amicably bring the entire episode to a logical and final conclusion. This is not a matter of the people thing, this is a matter of Law, and I believe that this could be resolved by the way of compromise and understanding of the parties concerned.

  13. ERRATUM: IN THE ABOVE COMMENTS, THE NAME OF THE COMMENTATOR IS JAMES SMASSAQUOI, NOT JAMES A. MASSAQUOI. THAT WAS A TYPOGRAPHICAL ERROR AND IS HIGHLY REGRETTED.

  14. ERRATUM: IN THE ABOVE COMMENTS, THE NAME OF THE COMMENTATOR IS JAMES SMASSAQUOI, NOT JAMES A. MASSAQUOI. THAT WAS A TYPOGRAPHICAL ERROR AND IS HIGHLY REGRETTED.

    • James A. Massaquoi, THAT WAS NO TYPOGRAPHICAL ERROR AND THIS IS WHY YOU ARE SAYING IT IS HIGHLY REGRETTED.OH FOR SURE IT MUST BE HIGHLY REGRETTED AFTER TRYING TO HIDE YOUR ACTUAL IDENTITY BUT FAILED.

  15. James
    You on point with everything you said and that’s how I see it. Peaceful resolution for the sake of the children, if there is no other reason to.

    Swan L. If what you said in your post is true that Ms. Ruth Sloh and her brother in law are reconciling with Ms. Kou Sloh, then that’s a step in the right direction.

    Let’s leave Ms. Ruth Sloh’s status in America and her personal relationships out of this, it won’t help anything but increase the hurt, we beg.

  16. You’re right, I will leave her status. I do not know any of these women, she has publicly disgrace Kau and hid her dirty laundry. She presented herself without blame. At this point, they have realized the financial burden and that there’s is no property or money involved so they want to return the body. The way in which they approach this burial was wrong. She should have worked together to buried this man. Whom at this point marriage is annulled since she’s married in the US. If I was Kau I would return to the US, they should keep the body they sued this woman for with the impression that Hon. had wealth.

  17. Comrade Freedom To Be Blunt,
    Welcome back man. You’ve been gone for some time. I hope while you were gone, every thing went well.

    I am not following the story of the late lawmaker, Mr. Sloh. I am confused. I think there’s a lot more to the story than we’re being told. For now, I will maintain a low profile.

    Hang in there buddy.

    • Oh, yes, Comrade Hney, we are back to say it as it is or do not say it at all! Thanks for the courtesy, Comrade!

  18. My friends, any educated or informed person can see that this is a simple matter, cut and dry. The man was not divorced from his wife. So they were still LEGALLY married. Yes he was separated. Yes he lived with the other woman Kau. But again he was still married LEGALLY to the wife. Also if indeed he was married to Ruth in Liberia then I find it difficult to understand how a man as powerful and connected as he could not get a divorce in Liberia. My friends, the law does not prefer what is expedient or what “appears” to be fair. Think about it. Can you file for your wife in America and use facebook page as proof of marriage? The Law recognizes what is DOCUMENTED as compliant to law. Yes, it would have been expedient to allow Ms Kau some courtesy, but that could not happen without the consent of the wife on paper.

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