From Detroit to Liberia: Why I Left America to Find Home

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By Royda Urey

“I am moving back to Liberia.” The words shocked me to say out loud. But after 26 years in the United States, the timing seemed right.

I had just turned 30. My successful sports management public relations business was at a turning point and I’d proved myself.  But there arose a yearning I couldn’t suppress: a desire to return to Liberia, my homeland.

My mother and I fled Liberia in 1990 after a violent civil war erupted that engulfed the country for more than a decade and killed 600,000 people. Growing up as a first generation Americo-Liberian presented many challenges. My mother was on edge at every turn because she landed in a strange place, causing her at times to be extremely over protective.

I remember in grade school wanting to assimilate so badly because I had a trace of a Liberian accent that I was desperately trying to get rid of.  I was teased often, repeatedly being called an “African Booty Scratcher,” a crude epithet whose meaning I still haven’t figured out. Still, it left me feeling ashamed of being who I was, ashamed that my family was from this strange land, this “dark Continent.”

Most of the teasing came from children who looked just like me. Those whose didn’t tease me were no less fascinated, completely intrigued by this “alien” who spoke strangely.  So I assimilated because I had to. I became fully American – whatever that means – and because of where I was raised, other African Americans viewed me as a “black white suburban girl.”

It didn’t help that I came from a mixed background – my mother, although a Liberian, had roots in the Middle East: her father was a Lebanese businessman who settled in Buchanan, Liberia. The ongoing and bitter interracial battle in black America between “team light skin” and “team dark skin” was not much different in Liberian culture, except they aren’t as politically correct as black Americans. I am still called “white woman” and “mulatto.” Simply put, I never felt as if I fit in anywhere, floating through life trying to figure who I really was.

My first trip back to Liberia came in 2002 when the country became stable enough for my younger sister and I to visit. I remember being annoyed with the thought that I’d be deprived of my first world conveniences.  But when I got there I was overcome with a completely different emotion, a sense of belonging, a sense of, finally, being home.

Little did I know that this trip planted in me the bug that made me more open to where I had come from. I found myself saying, “I will move back here once I retire.” It wasn’t until 2013, when my father, who had never lived in America and served as Chief Justice Minister and Head Of The Human Rights Council – passed away.

With his death there was a shift: I no longer sought to fit in, to be accepted in America. I was consumed with the urge to return to where I truly, genuinely, originally, belonged.  After traveling to bury my father in a grand homegoing service in my family’s graveyard, everything started to come together.

So many people are using Ancestory.com to trace their roots and here I was right in the middle of my heritage, living and breathing it. I didn’t have to consult the Internet; I embraced my inner network of kin and loved ones. My father was laid to rest next to his mother, who was buried next to his father.

I came to the sobering realization that we own the land and that generations of our family rest in peace together. In the same town of Careysburg (one of the original settlements established by the freed Americo-Liberian enslaved), I visited the house my father built, and that I grew up in, the church I was christened in, and even the house my father and his eleven siblings grew up in that was still standing. It made me proud in a way nothing in America could match.

These surging and powerful emotions, along with my need to be around family, prompted me to make a bold decision: I would pack up 26 years of my life, leave behind most of what I knew and venture back – perhaps for the first real time – home.

It has been almost three months since I’ve moved. Although Liberia faces many challenges, I am determined to make it here! After growing up in Detroit, Michigan, a place that has been considered one of the worst cities in America, I was nevertheless able to flourish, create a successful business and contribute to the resurgence of what is an amazing place.

As the renaissance continues in Detroit, my peers who once left for greener pastures are returning to help revitalize the city. I can’t help but think of Liberia, which needs the same type of revolution. Many refugees from the war have now settled in the western world and acquired education and work experience that can change the state of our country. Liberia now ranks as the third poorest nation in the world.

Many people ask if the reason behind my move was a result of the recent election in the United States, and honestly I can say ‘no.’ But the current state of the world still concerns me.  Suddenly a place that I sought refuge in almost three decades ago, is sending a message to people that they are not welcome here.

Everything I grew up believing I have now started to question.  Even some the friendships that I’ve cherished since childhood I sit and reevaluate; “How can this person be my friend when they agree with these ideals? The children of Syria could easily have been the children of Liberia.”

All of this has brought me to one conclusion: It’s time to invest in Africa (Liberia). Not only invest my presence but also whatever talents I can bring to my country/region.

I now understand “America” is no longer the land of opportunity that many Africans and foreigners aspire to get to- for many it’s where their journey ends. But this is where my real story begins. (Source: http://thegrio.com/2017/05/16/from-detroit-to-liberia-why-i-left-america-to-find-home/).

16 COMMENTS

  1. Welcome home, Royda Urey. Your coming back to Liberia is one more brain-gain.

    I will admit that your life story is not distant from many Liberians who fled Liberia during the civil war that killed approximately 250, 000 Liberians.

    The brain-drain Liberia experienced during its turbulent years robbed the country of many professionals. Western nations are benefitting tremendously from the vast exodus of professional manpower from countries where there are conflicts.

    The Middle East and Africa have lost some of their best educators, doctors, engineers, technicians, scientists, entrepreneurs, agriculturists, and other blue collar workers to the west during the time of conflicts. Despite the difficulties of living in some of these foreign countries like the United States, where the crime rate is very high in the inner cities, many citizens from these parts of the world over the years take on foreign citizenship whenever these conflicts last for protracted periods.

    Over the years of residing in these countries, many Liberians have children and grandchildren with foreign citizenship. These children and those Liberians who obtained foreign citizenship are not considered Liberians when they returned home unless they renounce their foreign citizenship by virtue of laws prohibiting dual citizenship in Liberia’s constitution.

    Again, welcome home. Liberia is your place of birth but I hope you do not run for political office because you will have to pass the Liberian citizenship test! That’s Liberia’s political entrapment!

  2. When will we as a people stop the foolish practice of labeling ourselves as Americo-Liberian or country. This is a dog whistle that awakens the violence and division that pligues our beloved Liberia. We are Liberians period. Gone are the days of “ do you know who I am” , a statement commonly used to intimidate a segment of the population. Educated Liberians now hail from every corner of Liberia, so please stop this nonsense.

    • My exact sentiment, where did that one come from? Girl that was a curved ball (Americo Liberian)please. You must be going through some kind of identity crisis, though it’s good to return home in an effort to contribute, but that Americo-Liberian crap got to go period.

  3. There are African-Americans, Arab Americans, Caucasian-Americans, Hispanic Americans, Native Americans, etc.

    Collectively, they’re all Americans. They even pledge allegiance to the same flag. However, they are defined by prefixes for purposes of ethnic classification .

    If there’s nothing divisive about that, I don’t see why the use of the words “Americo Liberian” should be considered divisive. It is simply a non-tribal ethnic classification.

    • Thank you, Renford. I also want to add that being Americo-Liberian is nothing to be ashamed about, as some people believe. We’re all Liberians, but every ethnic group is or should be proud of their unique culture and heritage. As long as the right to rule or lead is not earned or given based on ethnicity, we can grow and prosper in peace and harmony.

  4. Beautiful narrative!
    Welcome back home. Add your quota to making Liberia a better place for mankind.
    We shall overcome! It could have been faster had Liberians not taken the wrong turn, but it will surely come to an end and Liberia will once again be a land of liberty where people of all walks of life can find peace, love, prosperity and harmony. A Liberia that will once again judge and place people in society based on virtues and merits.
    May God uphold Liberia!

  5. Well done am stunned for ur great effort .i am in the UK working with the BBC. My new magazine is the Cominghome Revulution Magazine and will like u to contribute with ur Good experience.

  6. i love your videos on youtube. you are a great presenter and you keep the videos entertaining. proud of what you are doing. keep up th e great work!!

  7. “Everything I grew up believing I have now started to question.” We are in the Age of Aquarius, it’s time to wake up. Good for you. Keep the chakras open…
    Most people have not received the nudge; so, they wont understand. Welcome home. We are here injecting syrups of sweetness into this otherwise bitter place. Enjoy the journey…

  8. “I now understand “America” is no longer the land of opportunity that many Africans and foreigners aspire to get to- for many it’s where their journey ends.” That statement is complete bullshit. You go to Liberia and see what happens when you get sick, you will run back to America. Liberia is a shithole country with nothing to offer the average Liberian. The government is run by murderers, thieves, and rapists. Good luck – ungrateful bitch.

  9. Hello Miss Urey, I don’t see the reason to returned home that quick after earning your higher education, you should had stay In United states to work hard and contribute some money
    to families member back home,Liberia.where are you going to work now?. While many of your fellow Liberians In America begging for clemency to stay in America. can I ask you a question? are you an American citizen? There are nothing In Liberia that you relay on, I hear you saying that Detriot, Michigan is one of the remote states in America, firstly, you are not going to live like you were in America, no better hospital, no good drinking water, no better body lotion to wear after shower to smelled sweet, when your vehicle spoil no better parts to replaced
    I heard you saying that Detriot,Michigan is one of the remote states in America I don’t believed that saying Detriot, Michigan is It an Industries states where many factory manufacture vehicle.this is where FORD MOTOR headquarter is located IN the DEE

    • Give her a few years and she would be running for political office like MacDella Cooper, or running back to America. I don’t know how folks who return to Liberia from America do it. Where do you find a dentist? Do you have to travel to Ghana or America? And what if you need a crown or dental surgery? If you have to travel for healthcare, it would cost thousands of dollars. I think most people just wait until something happens before they travel back to America for care. Why go through all that pain and expense? In America, women get gynecological checkup each year for cancer and other diseases, and all that. Are there any gynecologist in Liberia? I doubt it. It’s just a bad, bad idea to leave America to live in Liberia, especially a young woman. Also, would she be able to find a good husband in Liberia where most men have a wife and girlfriend on the side? LOL. Good luck Ms. Urey!

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