‘Zero Tolerance for Abuse,’
In Africa, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to know if someone is being physically abused. But in some instances, we overlook the signs and see some violent or compulsive behaviors committed by those we love as being culture related.
Many women think that their husbands have the right to make them have sex. If you check in any law book, that’s unlawful. The definition of forced sex is rape, no matter who does it or how many years you’ve been married.
Cruel or threatening words hurt. Equally so, no matter who is using them, it is also abusive. Most times, when a person shows emotional abuse, you better watch out, they can become physically abusive also.
Watching those we love being emotionally and physically abused can be overwhelming, therefore finding ways to inform community leaders, the police of their situation should be your first priority. Help them get help.
Observe these possible signs of abuse. They are all wrong and shouldn’t be happening. You or someone you know may be abused if:
Your movements are being monitored by a partner or person all the time.
You are always being accused of being unfaithful or a witch.
You are being prevented from leaving your house or seeing friends and family.
You are not trusted and always accused of lying.
Your partner or abuser gets extremely angry during and after drinking alcohol or using drugs.
Your money is being controlled.
You are not being allowed to take your needed medicines.
You are degraded and disrespected in front of others.
Your property or things that you care about are being damaged or taken away.
Your partner or significant other threatens to hurt you, the children, or pets.
You are hurt daily by someone (by hitting, beating, pushing, punching, slapping, kicking, or biting).
Weapons are being used against you.
You are forced to have sex against your will.
If someone is abusing you, get help. Abuse can have serious physical and emotional effects. No one has the right to hurt you.