Not all relationships are abusive, but might have some serious characteristics that make them unhealthy.
“My man doesn’t like to touch me and sucks his teeth at anything I say or do,” confessed Rose.
If you think you might be in an unhealthy relationship, you should talk to your partner about your concerns immediately. After all, developing a good relationship requires communication and being able to deal with one another.
On the other hand, if you feel like you can’t talk to your partner but want to save what you two have, try talking to a trusted friend, relative, or a religious member before it is too late.
“I told his people about it and we had a family meeting. We handled it before it became worse. He had already started beating me plenty. Most times he would use sex to abuse me,” she added.
Meanwhile, consider contacting a confidant, Ministry of Gender, Development and Social Welfare or your nearest police station if you’re being hurt. Through getting help, you’re taking a major step in getting the support you’ll need to get out of harm’s way.
If you’re afraid to end the relationship, that could be the worst decision in your life.
“Last night a man came to buy drinks from me and offered me a phone since I don’t have one. My man saw the transaction and jumped on me and beat me badly. I called his people and they brought me here to Gender Ministry. I’ve decided I’ve had enough,” Rose revealed.
Some signs to watch out for in an unhealthy relationship are focusing all your energy on your partner and dropping friends and family or quitting activities you enjoy.
Other signs are feeling pressured or controlled a lot, having more bad times in the relationship than good and feeling sad or scared when with your partner.
Signs of a healthy relationship include: having more good times in the relationship than bad, having a life outside the relationship with your own friends and activities, making decisions together with each partner compromising at times and dealing with conflicts by talking honestly. Other signs of that a relationship is a healthy one are feeling comfortable and able to be yourself, feeling able to take care of yourself and feeling like your partner supports you.